When I missed Hailey's birthday (due to a reschedule) I allowed her to choose the paddle to represent her birthday spanking. She had a few to choose from, but decided on the 3/4-inch Pinewood paddle. Using bad behaviors in her life and the consequences they bring from me, only added to the concept of her birthday spanking. After three-years of her coming to me, our bond (though unusual) is something more akin to family than anything else. She fully trusts me and that is key to any type of disciplinary understanding.