It's not nice to leave someone you claim to love so much in the dark about the most important thing in your life. It's time for you to come clean. he's felt rejected by you for long enough. This is only a test of your marriage. Can it survive coming clean about your Black Hottie obsession? Whether it can or not, it's time for you to tell the white boy all about your love for the Unfriendly Black Hottie.