"Sweetie, go fetch me an ashtray. Actually, don't bother, just you will be fine, come here."
Where oh where should I flick my ash? On you, in you? Into your hand, into your mouth?
That's it, put your head back and open your mouth, good boy - my cigarette has something for you.
Not only am I flicking my ash into your mouth, I blow plumes of smoke into your face, you to inhale my 2nd hand smoke and eat my ash.