you don’t have to be tough or defensive or strong here - just be honest with yourself. you’re WAY too weak and helpless and lost to really handle any major decisions, especially around money. If it were up to you, you’d sit in your little goonhole all day jerking that money away all over the place. Is that the way stepMommy’s good boy behaves? NO! My good boys hand over all control. My good boys know stepMommy spends that money better than you EVER could.