I'm supposed to be in a wedding soon, reluctantly. The 4 bridesmaid dresses we've tried on already fit everyone but me. The dress store wouldn't even offer alterations on any of the options, no matter what the bride offered to pay. Am I really that big?? She sent me a final option that sort of matches the other ladies' dresses. The pleats gave me a LOT of room in the bottom half, but did she forget about my huge pillowy arms and all that back fat??